重要截止日期前后的紧迫性
I started out my career as a corporate lawyer working with two large firms in Boston for a total of 5 years. It was an exercise in personality types, and I used my knowledge of how to deal with different types as a survival tactic. It must have worked, because I was one of 33 associates hired one year. Nearly five years later, I was one of only 7 remaining at the firm. But, I clearly didn’t have it ALL figured out because each year I got the same feedback in my professional review:
"罗布对重要的截止日期没有表现出足够的紧迫感"。
哎哟。在每周工作 70-100 小时之后，这可不是你所希望的。作为一名 感知器我有一种天生的外向和冷静的倾向。事实上，我 自豪感 当周围的一切都分崩离析时，我还能保持冷静。问题是，我的 法官 同事们认为我轻松的风格是我不了解情况的信号。由于我没有在重要的截止日期前表现出紧迫感，他们开始怀疑我会处理好这种情况。
My sister and I have worked on hundreds of cartoons/illustrations together. This is the only one where she decided to draw me into the scene (adding glasses to disguise me, like Clark Kent might).
总之，每年在我的绩效考核中，接下来的谈话都是这样进行的：
- 评论员:你的同事一致认为你在重要的截止日期前没有表现出足够的紧迫感。
- 罗布: Well, you can see in my file that I have not missed a SINGLE deadline. I’m guessing very few people at the firm can also say this.
- 评论员:没错。
- 罗布:所以，你们的意思是......你们都希望我看起来更有压力？是这样吗？
- 评论员: 是的！那就太好了。
我的意思是，仔细想想整件事有点可笑。不过，他们说的还是有道理的。如果知觉者过于冷静，过于镇定自若，就会向他们的判断者同事（或朋友和家人）传达一个信息，即知觉者不了解情况的紧迫性。 由于判定者在感受到紧迫感时会情不自禁地表现出这种紧迫感，因此当有人没有表现出同样的紧迫感时，他们自然会感到担忧。.这反过来又增强了 AMPS 的紧迫性！
That last part is bad news for me as a Perceiver, since it doesn’t just mean they’re going to bring it up in my review. It means they are going to be standing behind my desk making darn sure I’m doing what needs to be done. In other words, too low-key and you get a lot more attention and concern from your Judger colleagues.
因此，我的建议是，想办法向你周围的判官们传达这样的信息：你确实意识到了紧迫性，而且你会及时采取行动。否则，他们就会对你大打出手。
还有，不要说 "R "这个词！ 😉
